definition of marriage
tuesday at the msebenz' we had some pretty good discussions about life and what our dreams and goals were. we chatted way into the wee hours of the morning and i absolutely enjoyed picking everyone's brains, especially one of our millionaire bosses. he himself is a business owner and he's got some interesting theories. he sure picked my brain too.
he asked me to define marriage. me reckons two people who love each each and can't live without each other decide to stick rings on their fingers and live happily ever after [ever after bit bieng rare in this part of the world]. however his definition, obviously from his personal experience of 27 years, struck an interesting chord with me: two people who love each each, completely self-reliant in their ways, can live WITHOUT each other, complementing their strengths to make a power couple, much like evenly-yoked oxen. it hardy ever works if one person has a greater circle of influence than the other.
oh really. hmmm. i suppose northern cali has different rules. but then again he did make a bit of sense. i have a friend from back home who almost got married this girl he loved to get her across the oceans to live with him. but then again, it would almost always be at the back of his mind that he dragged her over while she would constantly be under the shadow of owing her new and pleasant life to him. it could last but maybe not work at all.
i've never imagined myself as the marriage type and yet all my school friends have tied the knot and are popping out kids. i've had the honour of kapha-ring on so many occassions. in fact i'm busy planning a stag do in my capacity as best man for another wedding this summer. and there's the other mtshado i have to practice steps for later in autumn. i'm really happy for all my friends because they've struck gold. here i am now, trying to find the definition of marriage.
he asked me to define marriage. me reckons two people who love each each and can't live without each other decide to stick rings on their fingers and live happily ever after [ever after bit bieng rare in this part of the world]. however his definition, obviously from his personal experience of 27 years, struck an interesting chord with me: two people who love each each, completely self-reliant in their ways, can live WITHOUT each other, complementing their strengths to make a power couple, much like evenly-yoked oxen. it hardy ever works if one person has a greater circle of influence than the other.
oh really. hmmm. i suppose northern cali has different rules. but then again he did make a bit of sense. i have a friend from back home who almost got married this girl he loved to get her across the oceans to live with him. but then again, it would almost always be at the back of his mind that he dragged her over while she would constantly be under the shadow of owing her new and pleasant life to him. it could last but maybe not work at all.
i've never imagined myself as the marriage type and yet all my school friends have tied the knot and are popping out kids. i've had the honour of kapha-ring on so many occassions. in fact i'm busy planning a stag do in my capacity as best man for another wedding this summer. and there's the other mtshado i have to practice steps for later in autumn. i'm really happy for all my friends because they've struck gold. here i am now, trying to find the definition of marriage.
that's a deep definition of marriage, neva thought of marriage that way.Probably why the guy has been married for 27 years.
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Lesedi |
8:53 pm, May 01, 2006